Making excuses for failure | © Fola Daniel Adelesi

If you have ever failed before you should have learnt that failing is not a problem. However, it can become a problem if you don’t respond to it the right way. One of the many wrong ways people respond to failure is to always make it look like if something else had happened or had not happened they would not have failed. They simply go on to make excuses for failure and never learn their vital lessons needed for success.

Many say they have failed because of the family they were born into. Others think that they are not succeeding just because of the country they were born into. There are those who think they will be doing well in life now if only they went to better schools and got great jobs when they got out of school. Unconsciously, they excuse their present failure by making reference to something they could have had or never got close to having.

Men and women who have failed are living their lives based on what they could have had or what could have happened. Those who are succeeding or are going to succeed are spending time developing what they can have and make out of their situation.

I can easily understand why they make excuses for failure even though that does not make it right. I have failed before in school. I know how it feels to see that your colleagues have left you behind. Now you can no longer seat with your mates but you are compelled to seat with those who used to be your juniors. It can be humiliating. Failure tries to take your ego. And for many people, they have nothing left once you take their ego.

You must learn to outgrow that phase. If you don’t, you will find out that you keep failing and you keep making excuses for why you failed. You start struggling to succeed but it becomes harder to succeed. Why is that? It is because you are still in denial. You are not accepting that it could be something you did wrong that has caused the failure.

While I understand how people tend to treat us when we have failed at something, we still must learn that we don’t really owe people explanations on why we failed. But in the future, we may have some explanations to offer our younger generation on why we did not succeed like those others who succeeded. I don’t want to be explaining why I failed to my younger generation. I look forward to sitting with them and mentoring them on the pathways to success.

If you have failed it is not the end of the world. Take it in. Think about it for a while. In thinking about it, don’t let your focus be the failure. Focus on what got you into failure and see what you could have done differently. You definitely have the capacity to succeed so as you think about it, you are trying to identify that capacity that you have to succeed.

Fola Daniel Adelesi
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About the author Fola Daniel Adelesi

Fola Daniel Adelesi is a professional public speaker who also trains other speakers. He's a highly engaging training facilitator and he holds his large audience spell bound when speaking at gatherings. Apart from his several platforms which include banks, insurance companies and religious organizations where he facilitates trainings, he has been a part of some national television shows and he spoke so intelligently. He's an author, business consultant and highly skilled master of ceremony with excellent poise and diction. He was on the Debaters TV reality show season 1, he presented 'You Can' on Radio Continental in 2011 and he did motivational segments on Galaxy TV from Dec 2008 to August 2009. Fola Daniel has authored at least 5 books including ‘Writing Business Proposals,’ ‘The Mentoring father’ and ‘Get up and hit that goal.’ He talked about Social Media on - An ICT Show on Lagos Television from August 2015 to late 2016. He’s a regular guest on some national tv platforms (including Channels TV and Television Continental) and a delight to their audience. He trained as a communications professional, works as a business consultant and was also trained at Lagos Business School in collaboration with Google as a Digital Business Manager. He is the President and CEO of the Edible Pen Group.

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