- March 18, 2009
- Posted by: Fola Daniel Adelesi
- Category: Uncategorized
Imagine you had planned how to step out of an organization to start yours in the new month. You have been talking to some people about staffing and you have found a place that will be good enough as office space for that kind of business you really want to do. You know so well that the idea is going to work with some good publicity and extra hours of work when you are just getting started. You spent the whole weekend imagining how you would be delegating to your new team and how it is going to be so wonderful for you to have a great team that loves and appreciates you as the boss.
As far as funds are concerned you know you don’t have all the funds but you have about half of what you need and you can still step out. You probably spent the last hours of the weekend rehearsing your resignation moves and then preparing your letter. Then you wake up on Monday morning with a butterfly in your belly about the whole vision that excited you so much all through the weekend. You had the resignation letter already in your hands but it now weighs so much that you think you are carrying a heavy metal object.
After the break on Monday you now have the boss summoning a meeting with some members of staff and that includes you. The news is that you have just been promoted and you now have an official car attached to your office with some fringe benefits. At this point all of the excitement that filled the weekend and the dreams of personal work freedom and more financial independence withdraws to mere imagination.
Have you ever been in a situation where you think someone is trying to buy you over with material possessions? Have you ever been in a situation where you think you know where to go but it looks as if your legs are tied to the present spot because of the fears you have about the unknown.
Personal gratification is one of the reasons people do not take that tough decision of stepping out to do what they know is the right thing to do. I did admit earlier that it could be soul-piercing to take some decisions but it is not that we do not know what to do. It is just that we allow the fear of things that will come temporarily to deter us from taking that tough decision.
I have been in a situation where I have to decline help from some people and people will wonder why you should decline help. If you project your future constantly and you crystallize your destination you will know that you should not accept every help that comes your way. Some kinds of help will only be helpful enough to keep you out of your destination. Some kinds of help will only be helpful enough to help you out of your great dreams
If you must succeed you need to be quick in discerning the kinds of help that will help you out of destiny lane and reject them. Help sounds nice but it can be limiting and destructive.